a woman wants to love her husband, but at the same time she does not want to lose her family. so do not put yourself and her family in the same scale, because then her choice will be down to either you or her family. and even if she does choose you over her family, she will remain in anxiety, which will then turn into hatred towards you in your daily life.
The expectation that every neurotic phenomenon can be cured may, I suspect, be derived from the layman's belief that the neuroses are something quite unnecessary which have no right whatever to exist. Whereas in fact they are severe, constitutionally fixed illnesses, which rarely restrict themselves to only a few attacks but persist as a rule over long periods throughout life.
life's just one great journey. it's a road we travel as we go from point a to point b. what makes that journey worthwhile is the people we choose to travel with, the people we hold close as we take steps into the darkness and blindly make our way through life. they're the people who matter.